Augusto Zimmermann
7 hrs ·
The Australian government has adopted draconian measures that will lead to the death of numerous businesses, consequently, putting many lives at risk of financial destitution.
In a time where every taxpayer’s money counts, today Prime Minister Scott Morrison has announced that his government will be funding “domestic violence support … to reduce violence against women”.
But what about male victims of domestic violence?
It appears that for the Morrison government men’s lives do not really matter.
After all, the Morrison government has announced this Sunday that it is allocating more than $150 million to an anti-male program which includes only men’s behaviour change programs, and not women’s behaviour change programs.
In other words, this taxpayer-funded program is attempting to place all the blame on men, assuming that no man can ever be a victim of domestic violence.
It puts at risk of further violence men who are regularly abused by their female partners, and it is based on a sexist assumption that every male victim of violence may actually be the perpetrator.
Contrary to popular opinion, women instigate most domestic violence and hit men more frequently and more severely than men hit them.
And violence is far more frequent in lesbian relationships than between husband and wife.
In a recent review of literature, the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy (2015) concluded that violence is far more likely to occur among lesbian couples as compared to heterosexual couples.
This literary review was carried out by Dr Colleen Stiles-Shields and Dr Richard A Carroll from Northwestern University School of Medicine. It concludes that, once analysed together, all the previous studies reveal that violence affects about 75 per cent of all lesbian relationships.
Such findings about female on female domestic violence have been confirmed by numerous other reliable surveys.
Research is also finding that women use far more emotionally controlling or bullying behaviour – coercive control – than men.
It is this that can lay the groundwork for physical abuse in a domestic relationship.
A 2014 University of Cumbria study has found that women are more likely than men to be aggressive and controlling towards their partners.
As noted by Dr Elizabeth Bates, a senior lecturer in applied psychology at the University of Cumbria:
“For years, coercive behaviour has been talked of as a tool men use to control women. But in my research, men reported experiencing significant coercive control. They often described themselves as ‘walking on eggshells’.”
This has a significant impact on the physical and mental health of emotionally abused men. The UK Crime Survey found that 11 per cent of British men abused by female partners try to kill themselves, compared with only 7.2 per cent of women who are abused by male partners.
One of these male victims reported: “She told me no-one would miss me if I killed myself and suggested I find myself a quiet corner and hang myself”.
Research has also found that attacks on a man’s self-worth may be especially debilitating. One of the victims said: “If I told her to stop hurting me, she’d say: ‘What kind of man are you?’ She’d spit in my face and say repeatedly that I was a spineless, pathetic excuse for a man”.
Indeed, controlling psychological abuse is very typical of women who abuse male partners.
Dr James Dobson is the renowned family therapist and the founder of Focus on the Family. He offers a “note of caution which is likely to be misunderstood by those who want to be misunderstood”.
Dr Dobson contends that some women deliberately resort to extreme forms of verbal and psychological abuse in order to deliberately provoke a physical reaction from their husbands.
According to Dr Dobson:
“I have seen marital relationships where the woman deliberately “baited” her husband until he hit her. This is not true in most cases of domestic violence, but it does occur. Why, one may ask, would any woman want to be hit? Because females are just as capable of hatred and anger as males, and a woman can devastate a man by enticing him to strike her. It is a potent weapon”.
“Once he has lost control and lashed out at his tormentor, she then sports undeniable evidence of his cruelty. She can show her wounds to her friends who gasp at the viciousness of that man. She can press charges against him in some cases and have him thrown in jail. She can embarrass him at his work or in the church. In short, by taking a beating, she instantly achieves a moral advantage in the eyes of neighbours, friends and the law. It may even help her justify a divorce, of if one comes, to gain custody of her children”.
The above quote comes from James Dobson’s “Love Must Be Tough” (Tyndale House, 2007), p 181.
Dr Dobson understands why such empirical analysis can be inflammatory. However, he remains adamant that “domestic violence has more than once source of motivation, and that fact should be admitted”.
Naturally, domestic violence inflicted on women is totally unacceptable. So it is unacceptable any form of domestic violence either by men or by women.
The Australian Prime Minister is effectively attempting to advance a radical feminist agenda at the cost of even more pain and suffering to countless of innocent people, men and children alike.
Above all, to use our taxpayer’s money in a time of such grave crisis in order to further demonise fathers and husbands is simply unacceptable.
Shame on him!
Prof Augusto Zimmermann PhD, LLM cum laude, LLB (Hons.), DipEd, CertIntArb.