‘Beautiful, protective’ mum and three kids found dead

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Perinovic family: Tomislav, 48, Matthew, 3, Claire, 7, Anna, 5, and devoted mother Katie, 42

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

AARON FRANCIS

Police at Tullamarine in Melbourne’s northwest

A woman and three children aged three, five and seven have been found dead inside a house in Melbourne’s northwest suburbs, leaving a close knit community devastated and a city shattered.

Neighbours described Katie Perinovic, 42, as a beautiful woman and protective mother after she was discovered alongside her children Claire, seven, Anna, five, and Matthew, three, inside their home in Tullamarine on Thursday.

Detectives from Victoria Police’s homicide squad arrived about 12.20pm to find father Tomislav Perinovic, 48, with paramedics in the front yard of the three-bedroom brick house.

Acting deputy commissioner Robert Hill described the incident as tragic, saying the homicide squad would continue examining the scene throughout the evening. “The loss of life is tragic in any circumstances but when it involves children, it makes it more heart-wrenching,” he said.

Commissioner Hill said Mr Perinovic was a person of interest but it would be “grossly unfair” for any assumptions to be drawn this early in the investigation.

“As to who is culpable for the death of the four people, that is yet to be determined and we should not draw any conclusions,” he said. “We should not assume culpability on the basis that we have a male assisting us with inquiries.

“We just need to understand the facts … unfortunately they’re not known to us but will be in the fullness of time.”

He said there was no known history of family violence linked to the family and detectives had not ruled out the possibility of a murder suicide.

Commissioner Hill said Mr Perinovic had called emergency services to the scene.

Aerial photos of the property show toys scattered across a grassy backyard while a gum tree grows from the nature strip at the front of the brick home.

Neighbour Marie Groves, 49, said Ms Perinovic would often bring her three children over for playdates, describing her as a “beautiful, protective” woman. “She was a well known, beautiful and a very tall lady, very gorgeous … every time she walked past she always had a smile on her face (and was) always chatting to everybody,” she said. “They did come for playdates and (the mother) was always very upbeat.

“This is a neighbourhood where the kids know each other, the families know each other and … if you’re not around, we keep an eye on each others’ places.”

Ms Groves felt compelled to tell her youngest daughter of the tragedy as she used to play with the Perinovic children.

“I just told my youngest who was close playmates (with them) … I had to otherwise she would have heard it on the street.”

Ms Groves, who lives around the corner from the Perinovic house, said Tullamarine might be big, but “this particular part” was small and like a family.

“Everyone knows everyone, all the kids know each other, and go to the same schools and parties,” she said. The Perinovic children attended dance classes and a playgroup locally, and they would “be across here all the time with their bikes”.

Her husband, Steve Groves, 49, said the four deaths were “devastating”. He said the children came to his house to celebrate his daughter’s birthday in November.

“(In December) I saw her once in the park … with her three kids and we just had a chat and everything seemed normal,” he said.

Another neighbour further down the street, Sapi Safou, 35, said she did not know the family, but the neighbourhood was “quiet”. “To have this going on, it’s a shock to our neighbourhood,” she said. “To find out what happened, it’s so sad.”

The tragedy comes just days after another mother and her three young girls were found dead inside a burnt-out home in Glen Waverley, in the southeast, after a blaze tore through the property early on Sunday morning.

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Eight great things about men from a woman who loves them

Eight great things about men from a woman who loves them
by Suzanne Venker

Washington Examiner

My father was a great man. So is my husband. Ditto for my son. I think it’s time we praised such men. Now, if you happen to be someone who’s known mostly crappy men your entire life (which I find dubious), you won’t agree with my list of eight great things about men. But that doesn’t make the list any less true. Bad people don’t make their entire sex bad. When we come across a less-than-stellar woman, we don’t chastise the entire female population. On the contrary, we’re usually told there’s a perfectly good reason why she is the way she is. But we don’t extend this same grace to men.

When a few bad apples of the male persuasion emerge, we insist that men, as a rule, are bad. But that isn’t true. Men, as a rule, are good. More than good, actually. Here are eight great things about men:

  1. They’re easy to please. Men are remarkably easy to please. All he really needs when it comes to love is a kind woman who thinks he’s the berries. Give a man affection and respect, and he’s good to go.
  2. They don’t hold grudges. Most men are naturals at forgiving and forgetting. Say you’re sorry and mean it, and all will be forgotten.
  3. They love to be of service. Men love to be useful. Give them a project they can do, praise them, and thank them for doing it, and watch them shine.
  4. They’re great listeners. Since men aren’t the sex that talks a lot (research shows women talk some 13,000 words more per day than men do), that makes them great listeners. My son doesn’t talk much, but when he does say something it’s definitely worth hearing. That’s because he spends most of his days listening.
  5. They’re not demanding. It is rare to find a man who makes demands on women. This goes back to the fact that they’re “easy to please.” Since men don’t need much from women, they’re not likely to ask much in return. That’s not the impression people get from Hollywood, since so many films center on badly behaved men. But Hollywood isn’t reality.
  6. They don’t try to change women. There’s a well-known saying that goes something like this: “Women think men will change, but they don’t. Men think women won’t change, but they do.” Men are very accepting of the woman in their lives, warts and all. It’s an impressive trait.
  7. They willingly risk their lives. Men risk their lives in war, yes. But they also take deadly occupations that involve operating dangerous equipment, which drives the huge difference in workplace fatalities between men and women. In 2017, the fatality rate for men was about 10 times that of women: Five point seven per 100,000 vs. 0.6 per 100,000 for women.
  8. Once they commit, they stay committed. It may take some men longer to arrive at the altar, but once they’re in, they’re in. Roughly 70% of divorce in the United States is initiated by women. That means men are, ironically, better at commitment.

Does all of this mean men are perfect just the way they are and don’t have things upon which they can improve? No. But just for grins, let’s not focus on that. Instead, let’s honor what men get right and leave it at that.

It may never happen again.

Suzanne Venker (@SuzanneVenker) is a contributor to the Washington Examiner’s Beltway Confidential blog. She’s the author of five books and a relationship coach, as well as the host of The Suzanne Venker Show. Her website is www.suzannevenker.com.

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