http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/friends-with-benefits-not-a-relationship/story-e6frg6n6-1226499990321 A judge has ruled that a man and woman living together for 14 years as housemates and ‘friends with benefits’ did not have a defacto relationship. Source: Getty Images HAVING regular sex with a housemate does not mean you’re in a “relationship” – even if it last a decade, a WA judge has ruled.